Trying to come to terms with a breakup can be extremely hard. And if the split was a messy one, the aftermath isn’t going to be too pretty at all. So there is no wonder that some girls find it hard to get their lives back on track. It can be a lot more tempting to stay at home each night with a tub of Ben & Jerry’s in front of a weepy movie rather than hit the dating scene again.
But it will do you the world of good to forget about your ex and move in with your life. Are you ready to face the world again and show your ex-boyfriend what he’s missing out on? Well, you may not be able to forget about him simply by washing your hair, but there are plenty of things you can do to bounce back. Here are some of my top tips for getting back on track after a breakup.
Don’t Dwell Too Much
It is okay to be upset in the aftermath of a failed relationship. You will have a lot of extreme emotions and feelings to work through, so you should expect to feel a mixture of anger and sadness. However, you shouldn’t be down in the dumps for too long. It isn’t a healthy way to be, and you will find that your unhappiness can easily consume you. So it is very important to try and pick yourself up before too long. Moping around for the first couple of months is expected. But after that, you need to dust yourself and get ready to face the world again! Go on; show ‘em what you’ve got!
Cut All Contact
Were you thinking of keeping your ex’s number in your phone in case of an emergency? Or maybe you wanted to continue being Facebook friends so that you can see how he is coping with the breakup? You shouldn’t do either of these. In fact, you should cut all contact with your ex-partner altogether. No more phone calls. No more text messages. No more emails. And no more following and friending on social media! Even if you think you are strong enough to still stay in touch with him, you should still cut all contact. Even if it is just for a set period. If you try to stay in touch, the lines may be blurred, and you may end up kidding yourself that you have a chance to get back together. It is either over, or it isn’t. If it is over for good, then you need to cut the cord between the two of you.
Your Friends Can Distract You
Now that you don’t have to spend time with a guy, you can start dating your friends again! So be sure to set up plenty of mate dates with your besties. These can be anything from spending a girly night in to a trip to the cinema. Your friends will be among the people who know you the best and will be able to know exactly how to put a smile on your face again. They will also be there for you whenever you need a shoulder to cry on. Straight after the breakup, you may not feel like catching up with a close friend over a coffee. However, you shouldn’t decline their invitations, no matter what they suggest. Getting out of the house with your friends is a great way to distract yourself. You can forget about your ex for a while and have a great time with some of the most special people in your life!
Keep Positive People Close
One thing to bear in mind is that you should try to only keep positive people close to you after the breakup. If you ever need to confide in someone about your partner or the end of the relationship, do not do it with anyone who can be quite negative. Their negative demeanor may only bring you down even more! So try and hang out with only the positive friends in your life, who won’t only focus on their own problems and negativity. People’s energy rubs off on us, so make sure you are only soaking up positive energy!
Eat To Boost Your Moods
Just after the breakup, you will feel that you are drawn to comfort foods. Even though these may not be the healthiest food out there, some studies show that some comfort foods can actually help to increase your moods! Especially dark chocolate! However, you can’t continue eating like this all the time. Otherwise, your weight could greatly increase. So it’s best to try and stick to lean proteins and plenty of fresh fruit and veg. These will help you stay in shape, and they are also thought to help us stay emotionally balanced much better. So after that first week of binging on pizza and ice cream, it’s time to sort out your diet and start reaching for the whole grain and salads!
You have been through a lot recently, so you deserve to treat yourself a bit! And one of the best ways to do this is to take yourself away for a few days. You may want to visit some friends or relatives who live out of town to catch up with them. Or do you fancy going somewhere a bit further? Some people enjoy going on Singles Holidays after a breakup. That’s because it gives them the chance to recharge their batteries and refresh themselves before returning to normal life. And these kinds of holidays also surrounds them with similar people. Everyone on the trip will be single. You never know, this may the first step you take to getting back out on the dating scene!
Get A New Look
Once you have gone through a breakup, you will probably be looking for ways to give your confidence a little boost. One of the best ways to do this is to spoil yourself with a makeover. Even if you don’t have much money, you can still take small steps to boost your confidence through your appearance. For instance, you could simply update your wardrobe by treating yourself to a few key pieces of clothing. Another easy way to give your look a bit of an update is to have a haircut. Have a flick through beauty and hair magazines to see the different styles and cuts that are in fashion right now.
After a breakup, you will have to contend with competing emotions and conflicting feelings. This can leave you emotionally drained. One of the best ways to overcome this is to start practicing mindfulness. What is mindfulness? Well, it is a form of meditation that you can do whenever you have a spare five minutes at home. To help you get started, it is a good idea to download an app such as Headspace. The apps will take you through the basics of mindfulness and can help you to fine tune your technique. Once you have been trying out mindfulness for a few days, you will find it a lot easier to deal with the various thoughts and emotions you experience. The technique will eventually lead to you being a lot more calm and stress-free in all areas of your life.
You don’t have to suffer too much after a breakup. And, hopefully, all of the above tips can help you come out the other end. Just stay positive, and you will get there in the end!