You’ve found the perfect job.
It’s everything that you want it to be. It’s going to pay you better, offer you more opportunities for the future, and you’re going to be so happy working at the company. Everything about it is the stuff of dreams… except for the fact you’re going to have to move to do it.
The idea of a house move is tough enough to handle at the best of times. When you introduce the idea that, on top of the move itself, you’re also going to be uprooting your career… well, that begins to feel like close to too much to cope with. The situation is made even more complicated – as is the case the majority of the time – you’re moving to an area you don’t know particularly well. So you’ve got to find somewhere to live, potentially from hundreds of miles away, uproot your entire family, and take the leap of starting a new job.
Gulp. No pressure then.
While the above scenario might sound bad enough to make you want to go running the hills, this process needn’t be as bad as you’re imagining. There’s every chance that you’re going to find yourself in the midst of one of the most stressful situations of your life – there’s no denying that. It’d be cheap to suggest that this kind of move is going to be easy to handle. However, it’s definitely not more than you can handle – you just need to have the right tools to make it possible.
Of course, this one has a caveat. If you’re going to be relocating hundreds of miles away, potentially to another country, then you’re not going to be able to go every few days just to check things out. A lot of your planning process is going to be based around selling your home quickly and looking for help where you can find it, be it by enlisting the help of relocation experts or hiring movers to pack your house.
However, if you are in a situation where you’re able to visit your future home location frequently, then take the chance to do so. While you can look for houses for sale online and research schools for your kids in the same manner, when it comes to getting the feel of a place, nothing compares to actually being there. The longer you can spend in your new home town before you move there, the less of a harsh transition it’s going to be when it comes to moving.
This will also help in that it gives you areas to focus on. You might just want to buy a house as close to your new work as possible, then realize that the offices are not in a nice part of town. That’s the kind of information you’re only realistically going to find by actually being there on occasion, so visit as often as you possibly can.
As alluded to above, one of the most positive things that you can do is call in as much help as possible. This is not going to be cheap, but there’s a good chance you either call in help or rattle yourself so much the stress feels like a ton of bricks on your chest. No one wants that, so taking the opportunity to outsource wherever possible is an essential.
If you’re not sure what help might be available to you, then here are a few suggestions:
- Talk to your new employer. It’s unlikely you’re the first ever out-of-town worker they have hired. They might be able to put you in touch with relocation specialists, or even make direct recommendations to help you choose a home and schools as soon as possible. If they make an offer of help, it’s tempting to want to appear able and confident, so you refuse it – but this is just making life unnecessarily difficult for yourself.
- Look for real estate agents who have some experience of dealing with out-of-town movers. You can source your own properties too, of course – but it never hurts to have an extra ear to the ground for any good deals that might be coming onto the market soon. If you’re not sure who has experience of dealing with people who are moving from out of town, then that’s easily rectified – just ask.
- While it might be more expensive, using a moving firm to not just transport your boxes but also pack them in the first instance will save you a huge amount of time and hassle. You’ve got enough to be going with, so why sentence yourself to spending several weekends in a row fighting with bubble wrap? Professional movers are also hugely efficient, meaning they will get your house packed up far faster than you ever could, and probably more securely too!
- You could even consider hiring an online virtual assistant for the duration of the move. This could help you deal with the endless amounts of paperwork that such a move is going to create. You don’t have to sign into long contracts or become an employer; there are plenty of sites which can help connect you with virtual assistants in relatively hassle-free ways.
Transport As Little As Possible
There’s nothing new about decluttering a house before you move. In fact, it’s the primary point in our lives when many of us have the chance to declutter at all, so you’re probably already resigned to the fact you’re going to have to do it at least in some part.
When you’re moving across the miles though, your decluttering efforts are going to have to be extreme. Try and see every pound of weight as having a financial cost to you – largely because every pound of weight does have a financial cost to you. It’s going to cost you money in transportation costs at the very least, and potentially storage costs if you’re having to move gradually.
If you haven’t used an item in the last six months and it’s not of significant sentimental value, then it’s got to go. It’s harsh, but if you’re not absolute about this process, then you’re going to end up paying a lot of money to move something that is relatively unimportant. You’re going to be starting a new life in your new town; why would you want to go and clutter it up with your old one, anyway?
Be Prepared To Be Upset
If you’re not particularly attached to your current town – or are just super excited about the possibilities of your new one – then you might underestimate just how much of an emotional strain this process is going to be. No matter how much you hate where you currently reside, or how wonderful your new job is going to be, it’s still a massive change. With huge change comes huge emotional reactions, so you’re probably going to find yourself pretty distressed when it comes to having to cope with it all.
This is entirely normal. Not only do you have the change to deal with, but you also have the huge stress of managing all the different moving parts that go into a move of this magnitude. It’s okay to be freaked out; in fact, it’s entirely natural under that kind of duress! If you feel you are struggling to cope, then don’t hesitate to speak to your doctor about options to help ease the process on you emotionally and mentally. There’s no need to suffer in silence.
A move of this size could quite possibly be the best thing you have ever done, though there’s a few hurdles in your way first. So give them a good run up and be ready for what’s to come, and you’ll soon be settled in your new home, new job, and your entirely new life.