Care-Filled Considerations – Knowing How To Interact With A Relative You’re Caring For
Having an aged relative move into your home for care reasons is an interesting time of life. It does mean some more strains on you and your family, but it also means a closer bond between you and your loved one. Knowing how to interact with your loved one in this new dynamic is crucial, because there will be an adjustment period for everyone involved. For more information on understanding this transitional period, click here. Otherwise, read on.
The first thing to decide is how much freedom your loved one will have. Many people are saddened by the idea of having to restrict the amount of travel their relative can partake in, but depending on their physical and mental state, it might be a necessary evil. Discuss with their doctor how far they can safely travel from home before explaining to your elderly relative why this restriction, if any, is in place.
As far as household duties go, everyone in the house should contribute in any way they can to help the others.
If you have young children and your relative is capable at looking after them, they can contribute by minding them when you need to leave them at home for short periods of time, and you can contribute to driving your loved one to appointments and other places they can’t go by themselves.
This is a good example of both giving and taking in the new relationship dynamic you have built, and it’s important, because it doesn’t put extra importance over any one person in particular, but rather over the function of the home in general.
Try to understand where your relative is coming from mentally and physically, and be a bit understanding if they have a hard time adjusting at first. Living a whole lifetime independently and competently has been all they’ve known until recently, and the move itself is a sign of declining health, so it’s understandable that they might be a bit hesitant to accept things the way they are.
As long as you persist in supporting and encouraging your relative to accept the way things are and get the most out of this experience, they will eventually come to understand the necessity behind it, and even accept it in time.
With these notes, you should be able to cultivate a healthy and supportive environment in which your loved one can flourish and grow in their twilight years.