If you’re one of these people that have very stubborn parents, then there may come a time in your life where they’ll start to take a turn for the worse. They may start to forget things, or won’t be able to do certain things like they once could. This is just a part of life that you have to prepare yourself for, but when this time does come, you may feel unsure as to what you should do. Especially if they’re too proud to ask for any help.
Consider bringing someone in
The idea of a stranger coming into your parents home may not be a pleasant thought, for you or your parents. But it’s important to know that there are so many great homecare services out there nowadays that do an amazing job of looking after people that need it. They help with things like cleaning, making them food, reminding them to take their medication, and even just keeping them company. It may be difficult at first if your parents don’t accept help, but the carers are trained for all different behaviours and personalities, so don’t worry yourself about it being a bad decision. It just takes a little time.
Caring for them yourself
Now there are positives and negatives to this. The positives being that you know who you’re looking after better than anyone else, and they know you. And you’re able to spend time with one another, maybe more so than you once did. But it’s very important that you understand that it won’t be easy. It’s a full-time job, meaning you would most likely have to quit whatever you’re doing now, and focus all of your time and energy on looking after your parents. This can be both physically and mentally exhausting. And it won’t always be a smooth ride. There may be days when you’ve just had enough and need a break – but you can’t because there is no one else to step in. Also, your parents may not want you to see them in their time of weakness and vulnerability anyway.
Moving into a care home
There is also the option of moving them into a care home. That way they are constantly monitored and given everything they need. Some parents may not want to leave their home, so it’s something that you will need to discuss with them, but sometimes it’s for the best. They won’t have to worry about doing anything, or even be tempted to, because they will be in an environment that provides everything for them already. Care homes have always been shed in a negative light, but it’s 2018. There are some beautiful places in the most beautiful locations. They won’t make anyone feel like they’re in a prison, or that they’re trapped. Instead, it’s like being in a stunning holiday resort.
Whatever you do, don’t ever feel guilty for the decision that’s being made. You have your parents best interest at heart. You should never feel like you have to do it on your own. There’s help out there for everyone.